I have long been bothered by using fresh water in a flush. I finally got a chance to do something about it when we decided to build an independent house.
I had a hard time convincing the contractor and the plumber of what I wanted. The plumber was a little more emphatic that it won't work though he did not explain - unfortunately.
I got them to separate the waste bath water and save it in two tanks - first one with a filter and second one to store it. The tank and pipes to the WC tanks were separate. There was a separate pump to lift water from the grey water tank to the overhead tank meant for WC's only.
I moved in and the troubles started.
The waste water from the bathrooms wasn't much! Just the two of us. Fortunately, especially with the water saving toilets, even the water requirement for the WC tanks was not much, despite 2 senior citizens needing to use the flush more often than they would have preferred.
So, the first lesson was that the cost of the additional expenditure did not match the gain.
Worse was to follow.
I had searched a lot for filtering grey water. There were the treatment plants which made no sense at all for our needs and volumes. The rest were for rain water harvesting. Reminding me of the old crow and water pitcher tale. Bath water and washing machine water seemed quite clean. So, filtering with stones, sand and charcoal powder seemed fine.
After a few days, there was a strange smell in bathrooms. We just couldn't figure it out. We called the plumber and he said that he had told us that it wouldn't work. The smell was the grey water smell and it will get worse. He then said that he had made a provision to fill the WC tank with fresh water, knowing that we will have to abandon the experiment. Shall he do so. And of course, I agreed.
I still had grey water. So, I got an additional small pump to use the grey water for gardening.
Given the rains, I haven't used a drop of it for over 3 months now. Plus, even when it is bright and sunny, we consume enough to water a small part of the lawn.
I try to cheer myself up by trying to believe that every little bit helps even though my logic tells me - of course not. The upfront costs exceed the savings. I have made the planet a little worse.
I decided to share my learning experience in the hope that it may save someone from making the same stupid mistake and spending sleepless nights thinking about how could I have been so illogical and had refused to think through the implications.